“Don’t call it a failure, call it a learning opportunity.”
“Why are you so negative? Instead of saying they lost, say that they almost won.”
“Instead of saying we can’t do something now, say that we might be able to do it later.”
I don’t consider these cases of being pessimistic vs optimistic. No new information is gained when saying these things one way over the other. So why do we sometimes run away from one version of these statements? I think we should let words describe, as close as possible, the real Simple Truth. In cases we win, let us say we win. And in cases we lose, let us say we lose.
Human language is just a medium for communication. It can be manipulated and misconstrued, to sway yourself and your audience. But truth is stubborn. True things stay, regardless if we believe them to be. That which can be destroyed by the truth should be.
Let’s learn to face the truth, and also face the words which describe the truth. Let’s learn to use the truth, and also use the words which describe the truth. If our actions are aligned with winning, our words can just describe that truth. If our actions are not aligned with winning, our wordplay can’t make up for running away from that truth.